Having Children, Or Not?

That is the question for young people today. I’m asking to comment on this question, as it is one that has occurred in my home many times. The very first thing I want to mention is this, there is no greater love and no greater commitment than that of a parent to a child.

You will experience a love that is more intense and more consuming than any other love that is available to humankind. Children love is the deepest and the biggest.

I know many who are willing to miss this experience and I know some who have turned away from this experience (in spite of having a child). It is a deeply personal choice.

Our society misrepresents the concept of raising children. On TV and in commercials families are thoughtful and caring for each other. We are fed a picture of multi-generational families that function together and work hard to keep up relationships.

The truth is that there are absolutely no societal supports for taking care of children.

In spite of the fact that childcare workers are among the lowest paid workers in America, child care itself is viciously expensive. It’s difficult to find trustworthy and reliable care for the youngest of the young.

America doesn’t support workers who want to spend time with infants. Every high income country in the world allows for some form of…